10 ways to be romantic

Romance is something that adults seem to crave. Women tend to want to be romanced to get into a sexy mood. And men are often deeply romantic – all too often they regret the fact that romance is disappearing from a long-term relationship.

Here are our top tips for keeping romance alive

Celebrations

These can be great romance-boosters, but they can also be difficult. At times such as Valentine’s and Christmas, restaurants tend to be full - and our high expectations are often dashed by poor service or overcrowding. One way to get round this problem is to celebrate the night before a big day. So, go out on February 13 or have a candlelit dinner the evening before a birthday.

Surprise your man

Men often say they would like to be on the receiving end of romantic gestures, instead of always having create them. Many guys would doubtless appreciate a large bouquet. But what is more guaranteed to hit the spot is a single red rose that he can either wear as a buttonhole or put in water by his bed.

Tea and sympathy

We all have tough days, whether we work outside the home or in it. And that’s when we need a bit of kindness and understanding from our partner. A kiss, a cup of tea and a listening ear when the computer is going wrong or you’ve just had a nightmare day with the boss from Hades can feel more romantic than all the candlelit dinners and flowers in the world.

Carry a photo

Keep a photo of your beloved on your mobile phone. Also, put a photo that he or she likes in your wallet. A photo by the bed or at a work desk signifies commitment and love.

Back rub

Often busy couples are too tired for full sex. But the offer of a back rub or neck and shoulder massage is usually welcome. When we feel tense and anxious, it is very therapeutic to feel the hands of our loved one easing and stroking our body.

Romantic weekend at home

To do this properly, let everyone you know believe that you’ve gone away. Dedicate yourselves to having a relaxing and romantic time together for the whole weekend. This is like being away - except that you can watch your own DVDs, sleep in your own bed and eat the kind of food you really like.

Take your man away

Women love to be swept off their feet and taken to a romantic destination, but men often cherish a dream to be surprised too.

A day at a health and beauty spa

Women love the idea of being pampered. If you’re looking for a romantic gift for a wife or partner, you’re almost certain to please if you give her a voucher for a health spa or even her local beauty salon. She should come home after her visit feeling great about herself – and pleased with you. If you don’t know what she’d like, ask her best friend.

Fill the bedroom with flowers

This is a gesture that either gender can make for the other. Obviously, there are some times in the year such as Valentine’s Day when flowers are too expensive to do this. But in late spring, you can buy loads of bunches of daffodils quite inexpensively. And in the summer, all sorts of flowers are plentiful. Don’t put them in vases. Just scatter them on the bed and the floor. If things go well, you’ll end up making love on the flowers - so the blooms don’t have to be perfect or long lasting. For obvious reasons, avoid anything with thorns - ouch!

Keep special places unique

Take your beloved one to a location – especially a hotel – where you both once went and had a very good time. Cherish old memories. Each couple should have their own special places that are unique to them.